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It’s better to stay with your own kind when choosing a date.

Of all the other topics I read, I thought that I should definitely write about the topic above. Leaving high school we have so many expectations and naïve hope. We come to university to meet a diversity of people with totally different backgrounds and cultures which we come to appreciate, but that it seems like it is not all of us. Some are open-minded and are comfortable with other races are not and I have come to realize that there is no real social interaction amongst races. One would assume the popularity of interracial dating in the twenty-first century to be proof of racism and its wounds being a thing of the past, unfortunately not.

It’s better to stay with your own kind because when choosing a date because people of the same race are already different, and dating someone from a different race is just complicating matters. Dating a different race means that you will have to learn about their culture, their language and background and it is not easy accommodating something totally different. Other races are not very keen on interracial relationships.

Particularly I think that black women are very challenged in society. First of all we have to overcome the patriarchal societies and now dating is a challenge. According to my experience I see a lot of white girls dating black guys (and these are not your average black guys, they are either wealthy or they are foriegners). But do you ever see white men with black ladies, no and I wonder why. Could it be our accent, or the texture of our hair, our Saartjie Baartman bodies or simply our dark complexion?? Who are black successful women suppose to date when black men are going for white women and white men going dating white women( even if they are ugly and intellectually disadvantaged)



I know that they say you cannot choose the one you love (personality). But I think that part of human instinctive nature is to have preference. When you see someone for the first time you see the colour of, you don’t know what kind of person they are and you start judging and I think that this is where the problem stems from. Dating the same race helps you at a happier life. You understand their struggles because you have to experienced or know someone who has experienced the same struggles.

There are just too many politics involved when dating outside your race. Friends and family may not approve, and the couple will constantly be challenged in their communities, schools and work places. Non-white individuals who date interracially are attacked on many fronts, one being the notion of "selling out."

When dating someone you have to be economically, educationally, socially, culturally, and most of all romantic compatibility and is very important and sad too but how is this possible to date interracially with racism still rife fourteen years after democracy. Most importantly dating someone in the same race can assist you retain your culture, beliefs and traditions without any disruptions or question why you have to do them. It is just easier to date your kind, less complications and less drama.